Dress: Michel Klein, Cardigan: Gap, Belt: Urban Behavior
Yesterday was our 10th wedding anniversary, so a date night was definitely in order. The funny thing is, we decided to have date night with the kids, my parents, and sisters. We plan to have a private dinner sometime this weekend, but wanted to include the kids in our official “celebration”. It wasn’t really fancy, but it was nice to hang out with family and we even got cake at the end (score).
Last week my new blogosphere friend Tanvii from The Fabulous Life of Not-S0-Rich and Infamous wrote a great post sharing some marriage advice. After reading her post I had considered doing the same today, but for some reason it just doesn’t feel right. Sure, 10 years is a long time but I don’t know if I have advice that is really valuable or unique.
Mr. T and I have known each other for 12 years (since I was 18). We’ve been through good times and bad, we’ve lost dear family members, brought two new people into the world, laughed together (and at each other), we’ve cried together (and made each other cry), but over all the journey so far has truly been worth it. In particular, the last year of our lives has been the most difficult and trying time we’ve been through. We’ve had to move 3 times, our relationships with family have been strained, and our finances have been stretched beyond the limit. This was actually the first year in all 12 that I thought we might not make it. But the strange thing about difficult times is; they always bring out the best in you. Going through all of that stress and turmoil together has really taught us to appreciate each other and our little family of four.
We have never been overly romantic, or openly passionate people, but we’ve always managed to keep that little spark alive; not with wild gestures, but with simple rituals. Sure, waking up to a room full of rose petals would be nice, but I’m just as happy to find a surprise mint Aero bar in my desk drawer sometimes. Most evenings after we put the kids to bed, Mr. T watches re-runs of old sitcoms on TV while I work on the computer or catch up on some reading. There isn’t always deep conversation, but there certainly is a quiet understanding.
I guess there is one valuable lesson in all of this, learn to enjoy the simplicity in marriage. Sometimes we put so much stress on making big gestures, and buying extravagant gifts for each other that we forget to appreciate the everyday magic.