Biz Mama: Can You Cry at Work?

Biz Mama is a series where I’m sharing some glimpses into my life at the intersection of motherhood & entrepreneurship, you can read more here.

I’m writing this post with tears in my teacup and, on the pages of my notebook that was beautifully laid out and ready to take notes in during a meeting this morning. After weeks of working on an idea that is so close to my heart {hint it has to do with culture & food} and being led to believe that a brand wanted to collaborate on it, my meeting was cancelled – just like that. Five minutes before the call that I was looking forward to for days was to happen, my sparkly bubble was burst. I’m not telling you this for sympathy, I’m telling you this in case you are like me, so we can celebrate and cry together.


I’m the Creative Director of a very successful social media firm, I run a moderately (?) successful blog, and I’m a pretty tough girl; but I wear my heart on my sleeve, and no matter how hard I try, that seeps through into my business. In fact, a few weeks ago I found myself on a phone call with another brand that I work with in tears. Not because they did anything that ‘made’ me cry, but because I love that brand so much {as I do most brands I work with}, that I just wanted everything I do for them to be perfect. Is this a huge fault in my personality? Will I never be extremely successful as a business women or a blogger because I can’t separate my emotions from my writing or my work? Or maybe, the reason my work is good is because it’s emotionally charged? I honestly don’t know. This is what I do know though; I can not change who I am, and I shouldn’t have to.

I worry a lot about showing my emotions, because people always tell me that I’m too girly and too sensitive. Since I already feel judged for my cheerful clothing choices and bright pink lipstick in the boardroom, the last thing I want to bring to the table is tears. Ironically though, most of the business books and articles I read tell me that business, especially social media, is about connecting with people’s emotions, and being vulnerable is a good leadership trait to have – it shows people you are human. So this leads me to a deeper question; is crying or being emotional at work only bad if you are a women? Would a male counterpart be celebrated for his ability to show both his passion and vulnerability. Again, I don’t know the answer.

What it all comes down to for me is passion. I cry and get emotionally invested because I’m so passionate about what I do. I’m passionate about growing my client’s brand’s on social media, I’m passionate about sharing good valuable content with my readers here on Pink Chai Living, and I’m passionate about preserving my culture and food. So I guess that’s why I cried when things didn’t work out today – not because I’m a sissy or over-sensitive, but because I’m 100% in on everything I do, and you can’t be that passionate without emotion. 


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