I was feeling super happy yesterday and since I went to the trouble of curling my hair, Mr T suggested an afternoon coffee date. I guess if your wife makes that much effort, the least you can do is take her to Tims for a double double? I was also inspired to change into this dress and do a little puddle jumping on the way – can’t help it, I’m a West Coast girl who loves the rain.
Lately I’ve been feeling a little detached from my Mr; like we are becoming complacent about our relationship. We are always nice to each other and have a very happy life, so in some ways I feel selfish for wanting more. I’m craving late night conversations that go on forever, uncontrollable giggles from remembering an inside joke, and long silent hugs. In fact, I had a long vent session with a girlfriend about this yesterday, and after walking away from the conversation I realized; I’m equal parts to blame for the lack of adventure in the relationship. You know the drill – kids, work, life, blogging; everything piles up and there isn’t much energy left for relationships at the end of the day.
The major culprit for us is talking about the kids, it seems like the only thing we talk about lately. My son has been having some issues at school and there have been a lot of doctors visits, and we keep talking about it every day. So, I made a list today; a list of things to talk about. Yes, I know that sounds crazy (and corny), but it felt good. I just went totally free flow and did a big brain dump of things to talk about other than the kids. I won’t be consulting the list every day and giving myself check marks or anything, but it was a good reminder of things to focus on, and I’m hoping it helps me initiate fun new conversations.
What do you do keep your relationship feeling fun? Would love to hear your ideas on reconnecting with your significant other? Also, random side note … Mr T is turning 40 in 3 weeks and my boy is turning 10, and I’ve done nothing to prepare! I feel a frantic Pinterest session coming on.