Life isn’t exactly known for it’s fairness. There are all sorts of things about the world that are unfair on a grand scheme – some people are born rich and others are born poor. Some of us are born completely healthy, others with serious health issues. There is no rhyme, reason, or explanation for those types of things, and as a unwritten rule people accept that. Sometimes though, awful unfair things happen to us in life that we desperately want to find a reason for. Some explanation or justification that can make the situation easier. For the last couple of weeks my family has been dealing with one of those situations, and it sucks.
As you are reading this post, I’m likely loading or unloading a moving truck – we are moving today. Just one year after going through boxing up our belongings and moving into what was supposed to be our forever home, the home we renovated and decorated, we’ve had to box up our stuff and move again with less than 30 days notice.
I’ve gone back and forth for the last hour on this paragraph, wondering if I should share what happened, or give just a few details, but I’ve decided against it. I will say this that we are feeling a combination of betrayed (because a parent was involved in what happened), exhausted, and confused. Confused because Mr. T and I always strive to do the right thing. We aren’t perfect, but we try to be good people, so this all seems really, really unfair. My whole life I was told ‘good things happen to good people’ – kind of hard to believe right now.
As you can imagine the last two weeks have been pretty tough. To make things worse, my agency was rolling out a major campaign that required my happy game face at all times, and I’ve committed to a 30 for 30 challenge. I’ve had moments in the last month where I’ve wanted to give up on everything and just retreat from life, unfortunately (or fortunately) that wasn’t an option, so I’m just chugging along.
Other than the fact that I have some pretty amazing friends that have kept checking in on me, have shown up to pack, and brought lots of wine, I’ve also found comfort in a few coping mechanisms. If you are going through a messy unfair time in your life, maybe it will help to share.
HOW TO COPE WHEN LIFE ISN’T FAIR
Write it Out – Grab a journal or a scrap piece of paper and just write out all the feelings.
Cry it Out – Sometimes you just have to let the emotions flow. I’ve given myself a personal deadline, crying about the situation is allowed at the old house, but I can’t bring it to the new house.
Focus on How not Why – Why the sh*tty thing happened we’ll never have a real concrete answer for, how to move forward we can figure out. Focus on the solution not the problem
Accept Help – If someone offers to help you, take it
So that’s what’s up in my world, and why I haven’t been posting my 30 for 30 looks for a couple of days. I have managed to almost keep up with pics (I’m 2 days behind), and I will post a re-cap of what I wore last week tomorrow. If you are thinking about me today, please send positive and energizing vibes because this girl is exhausted!