35 Before 35

Anyone that knows me in real life, or follows me on Facebook may already know that I’m a bit of a workaholic, filling every free moment with another task. The problem with that is, every time I look up from my to-do lists, project files, and ridiculous amounts of notes, another few years of my life have passed and I don’t feel like I accomplished much other than working a lot. In a few hours I’m turning 33, not a huge number, but for the first time in years (since my 25th birthday in fact), I feel like I’m ‘getting old’, whatever the heck that means anyway. I want my life legacy to be more than; she was a diligent worker and never put her smart phone down, or man that girl sent a lot of tweets – it’s a shame she never visited the Great Wall of China. 11057945_585737928195208_85208341579861118_n

Since I had so much fun (and more success than I expected) with my summer bucket list, I thought it would be fun to work on my 35 before 35 list. It’s a little narrower than the life list I once did, and a lot more realistic. While I know that trying to complete 35 tasks in 24 months is a bit crazy, everything I’ve chosen represents fun, family, and self-love so I’m sure it will be worth effort…so here we go!

35 Before 35 List: 

  1. Make a fascinator and wear it somewhere fancy
  2. Print and organize our family photos
  3. Make a video of my best in the world chai recipe
  4. Become a really good conversationalist (like really listen to what people are saying)
  5. Host a New Year’s Eve party
  6. Grow a kitchen garden or keep a plant alive
  7. Learn to make macarons
  8. Repair a broken relationship (there is one person I’d like to make amends with) 
  9. Take an outfit photo at the Eiffel Tower
  10. Launch my super secret yet so awesome biz project (sorry, no details yet!)
  11. Buy a real painting – not a print
  12. Create a new family tradition
  13. Write a book proposal/find an agent
  14. Teach my kids conversational Punjabi
  15. Personalize my home
  16. Complete a Project 365
  17. Learn to do a smoky eye
  18. Start a journey of self-love
  19. Get wrist tattoos
  20. Take really special family photos
  21. Run in a 5K
  22. Print my own fabric
  23. Take a family vacation
  24. Find my signature cocktail
  25. Watch the Nutcracker Ballet
  26. Unplug for a whole week 
  27. Make a personal brand website
  28. Go to a wine tasting
  29. Have High Tea at the Empress Hotel in Victoria
  30. Write letters to my kids
  31. Take updated photos in my wedding outfit
  32. Buy a new tea set
  33. Get business cards I love giving out
  34. Take a Greek cooking class
  35. Complete 35 random acts of kindness

So now I’m scared, but a good kind of scared…the kind that comes with excitement too! The goals that make me most nervous are; hosting a New Year’s Eve party – I only have two shots at that one, making macarons – I can’t bake to save my life, getting wrist tattoos – I’m a chicken, unplug for a whole week – I’m addicted to being connected. The ones I have no idea how I’ll measure completion for are; being a good conversationalist and truly embracing self-love, I guess I’ll just have to use the honour system when checking those off!

The hardest one though will be #8 – repairing a broken relationship. There is someone in particular that I really want to fix my relationship with and have them back in my life, that may not be a conversation I share on the blog, but it’s one that I definitely need to have.

With that it is time for me to pour myself a glass of wine and put on my fuzzy pj’s so I can wake up one year older and slightly wiser tomorrow!




  1. Jen
    October 11, 2013 / 10:42 pm

    I really like this… such a great idea… I just might steal the concept 😛 As I turn 30, not this June but next.

  2. Yoosha
    October 12, 2013 / 12:01 am

    Hey Raj, Wish you a very very happy birthday. Great list of to-do’s. Looking at yours, I started making one for myself too 🙂
    And am forcing my DH to have one for himself too. It is truly great fun.
    Good luck for your 35 things. And I wish that you repair your broken relationship successfully. Happy Birthday again!!

  3. October 12, 2013 / 7:47 am

    I think I’m reading this post the day after you wrote it, so happy birthday!!!

    Love your list! The years really do sneak up on you. My kids were asking me how old I am and I had to do the math to figure it out. I was surprised to realize I’d be 37 this year.

    When I quickly do a mental list of what my list would be, it is kind of scary. Especially those ones where you only have a certain time to complete it.

    2, 4, 7, 9, 10, 11 and 18 are my favourites. And I can help with 31. 🙂

  4. October 13, 2013 / 7:20 pm

    Happy Birthday!!
    And this is a great list! I should have done something like this before I turned 40. Maybe I will aim for 50 before 50 now?? LOL
    I’d love to get a wrist tattoo in white ink. have to find a place that will do it though.
    good luck on the list – looking forward to seeing you accomplish them.

  5. Gillian
    October 14, 2013 / 9:57 am

    Happy birthday! Wonderful and insightful list. Thank you for your inspirational posts, they always make me think and put a smile on my face. 50 before 50 sounds like a plan, stealing your list so I only have to find 15 more!

  6. Kuljit
    October 29, 2013 / 1:49 pm

    I will gladly partake in numbers 1, 5, 7 (actually share it since I went to a macaron making class), 9, 17, maybe 19 but I’m pain-adverse, 25, 28, 29 and 34. Okay? I will wait for the invites, Thanks!

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